Monday, 22 June 2009

If you see me walking down the street

Aren't all of you lovely to post such good wishes about the move! It's truly exciting for me, but when you know others are excited on your behalf it means so much more.

I left work at lunchtime today. I'd had a funny tummy since yesterday and given the pig flu that's circulating of late, figured it was best to go home lest I infect the entire office.

Strolling through the Degraves St subway to catch my train, I noticed a figure coming towards me. Hmm. Looked a bit like Richard from far away. Certainly walked like him. Wearing a funny hat in an attempt to be avant garde, too.

Shit.

It WAS Richard. What's more, he'd seen me, too.

We each did an admirable job of ignoring the other as we crossed paths. Sitting down on the train moments later, I was amazed at my complete lack of feeling. I've not seen him since I left my previous job 18 months ago and had imagined that when/if our paths ever did cross again, it would be traumatic. But it wasn't.

Truth be told, it was like seeing someone that you might have gone to primary school with. You have a vague recollection of the face, but not enough to go over and say hi.

I told a girlfriend who'd seen me through the messy part this afternoon. She asked how I'd dealt with it and I commented on my lack of feeling - no anger, no pain, nothing. Her response?

That's good then. It has been placed where it should be - in the past.

Amen to that, sister.

7 comments:

PI said...

Yay I'm first - to congratulate you.
That's progress. Well done!

Dina said...

I'm glad you're feeling okay about things. I think that's what we have to remind ourselves when the pain is really bad...eventually it will fade away and be not so big a deal.

Unfortunately though...the pain over one person is often replaced with the pain over another person.

Oh well!

lightning in a bottle said...

i'm glad that he no longer has any effect on you. he has become a footnote. you are on to WAY bigger and better things.

Jayne said...

MD that is great!
I'm so happy for you that he registers nothing these days, which goes to prove how much in love you really are now :)

Deb said...

Ah, it reminds me of a poem from Thoughts of Nanushka by Nan Whitcomb which starts "my memories of you are fading..."(google it if your interested)

Oh, it's the best moment isn't it? When their power over you is gone, and the moment that you thought would never come actually crept in while you weren't looking.
Bliss.

miss diarist said...

Thank you Pat - I think it snuck up on me when I wasn't looking.

Dina, it feels great. And so far, no pain to speak of. Just easy, lovely normality.

Ling, I like the idea of him as a footnote.

Jayne, woo hoo for love. I'm so happy that he registers nothing, too.

Deb, my darling muse. Those poems are lovely. You're going to have to bring in the books for me to peruse.

aurora_australis said...

MD, ich hab deinen Eintrag gelesen und danach einfach gelächelt. Ich freu mich so sehr für dich, dass jenen Tag für dich angekommen ist - dass jener ganze Geschichte wirklich jetzt in der Vergangenheit ist, und dass ihn zu sehen dir nicht mehr weh tut oder schmerzhafte Gedanken vorbringt. Umarmungen. -A :)